“When a man does it, I’m kinda like, ‘Welp, okay.’
But when a woman does it, I feel betrayed.
It’s very internally misogynistic of me to hold all women to higher expectations.”
Here are some of the candid responses that just might have you reflecting as well:
1.
“My most annoying one is that I think men age better than women.
I am afraid of looking old.
It’s really unfortunate and annoying that I think this way, and I hate it.
I venture to look past it, but it is difficult.”
u/cat_muffin
3.
“I always find myself comparing myself to other women through a male gaze.
It’s like there are little men in my brain constantly rating women.
It’s pathetic.”
u/claymountain
5.
Social media makes it so much worse, especially those ‘classy-women-with-high-standards’ videos made by women.
They’re incredibly hurtful and support misogynistic thought patterns."
In the back of my mind, it feels like they are always judging me."
u/HuffleHoney
7.
“Ugh, I have several, and I’m really trying to work on them.
The biggest one is comparison.
Especially when that something is a traditionally masculine activity.
I’m a powerlifter, so this is a huge struggle for me in the gym.
“Probably that I assume women should be better than men.
I didn’t shake my head and feel disappointed like I did with the woman.
It’s very internally misogynistic of me to hold all women to higher expectations.”
u/beigecurtains
9.
As if people will think, ‘Well, no wonder look at her.'”
Half the battle is remembering that I can ask my husband for help.
Anyway, I’m working on it."
u/IAmNotACanadaGoose
11.
“That wearing heavy makeup equates to being shallow and ditzy.
u/Internet_is_my_bff
13.
“That women whose kids all have different daddies make poor decisions and aren’t good judges of character.
I judge the baby daddy, too, but I hate that I expect more from the mother.”
u/so_anyways
15.
For example, a little toy astronaut.
I’m trying to catch myself and switch things up until my son can decide on his own.”
“I can’t get it out of my head that women are less capable.
Age plays a part in it, even though it should not.
And I do it to myself, too.
Why should they know?!
Anyway, I hate that I think this way with a passion.
u/still_on_a_whisper
18.
“It’s weirdly specific, but it irks me when I see girls cosplaying male characters.
It makes no sense; I’m not even into cosplay.
And I’m nonbinary and queer!
Even so, my first thought is, ‘Ugh, you could have tried harder, couldn’t you?
Costly costume, elaborate shot, and yet, it’s clear you’re a girl.’
I hate to have that reaction.
I never say it out loud because I feel ashamed.
u/Icleanforheichou
20.
“My initial reaction to seeing long underarm or leg hair on another woman is to feel grossed out.
I also judge women who follow trends too quickly.
“Judging a woman by what she’s wearing, especially if it’s a very risque outfit.
I can’t even justify why I do it, but I find myself doing this too often.
I’ll think something like, ‘She’s doing too much.’
Why can’t you accept that?'”
u/mini_k1tty
22.Lastly: “I have resented some women for the idea of their ‘pretty privilege.’
I feel the need to shirk myself for taking up space.
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