“Cheating has always been my biggest dealbreaker, and with a family member?
I could never look past that.
I told him never to contact me again, and so far, he hasnt since.”
“My ex-fiance’s road rage was ridiculous, but in this instance, I knew I was D.O.N.E.
We were driving home after dark, and a driver in another lane got too close.
It could’ve been an honest mistake.
We could’ve easily been killed in a pileup collision.
“There are no sides in road rage.
He said nothing.Not one word.”
trendydolphin59
2. in prison something he hadnt mentioned before.
I dodged a bullet!”
redtooth14
3.
He replies with, ‘Hey babe, I think I made a mistake.’
So I say, ‘Oh you got pizza?’
and he goes, ‘No, I slept with your sister.'"
“I was flabbergasted, like, what the hell does that even mean???
Anyways, safe to say we arent together anymore.”
27, Georgia
4.
He was an immature mama’s boy, and being married to him would be absolute hell."
We have a beautiful family.
Ending my first engagement was the best decision of my life."
26, Canada
5.
He made very little money; I was primarily supporting him, and he had a terrible temper.
Its amazing how easy it is to overlook personality defects when you think you are in love.
I made excuses for him, even though his behavior was inexcusable.
I only saw them one time after, but his mom and I corresponded by snail mail for years.
A few years later, I married a man Id known since I was 7.
He is the love of my life, and weve been happily married 25 years."
73, Arizona
6.
“We were together since high school, and he proposed when I graduated college.
It was then when we got engaged that everything started to fall apart.
He became extremely self-conscious to the point where he was constantly accusing me of cheating on him.
Which I have never done nor given him a reason to think so.
I dont think I could ever look past that.
I told him never to contact me again, and so far, he hasnt since.”
28, New York
7.
“I wanted to end it as soon as it happened.
in front of people no less!
He then began to stalk my best friend to look for me.
Sometimes, I think I dodged a literal bullet on that one.”
Anonymous, Texas
8.
I felt he was lazy and couldn’t be counted on.
He also began to call me names passive-aggressively, which was causing me to doubt the engagement.
Sure enough, he left in a huff as if to punish me a day after I had surgery.
I called off the engagement then."
My instincts about him had been on target.
So, if you sense red flags, listen to your gut and move on."
58, Tennessee
9.
It was weeks before our wedding, and everything was going mostly to plan.
From what I saw, the text started with, ‘Hey love.’
“Considering all this, it just felt off, but I ignored it for a few days.
Still, I had this nagging feeling I should do something about it.
Eventually, I called the wedding off a week before.
More recently, I heard that he and Lola had been divorced because he had cheated on Her.
I am now happily married to my current husband who is the love of my life.
Im still thankful for that gut feeling I had then.”
43, USA
10.
“We had the same religion but came from different sects.
His parents were not thrilled that he was engaged to me because they didnt agree with my sectarian background.
They wanted him to break things off with me and didnt come to our engagement party.
I threw his ring on the lawn and broke it off.
He was so rude to my family and had no concern for my feelings.”
“Two years later, I met a wonderful man from different religious background.
His parents love me, and my parents love him.
We have been married 18 peaceful years.”
51, California
11.
“We were recent college grads, and I got a job offer in another country.
He was ready to follow me but had absolutely no ambitions or plans of his own.
We delayed the wedding once because I thought he just needed more time to reflect, but nothing changed.
35, The Netherlands
12.
“Five months before the wedding, we were out to dinner.
I said that I thought it was time to talk about our finances.
I got up and walked out.
He eventually came out and took me back to where we were staying.
Finally, I figured out that he had a massive gambling problem.”
“Even with the promise of getting help, I just said nope I’m out of here.”
71, USA
13.
He started to pick my clothes, which were always more revealing.
He didn’t like that I was in college, so I stopped talking about my classes or ambitions.
I stopped talking altogether because he also said I wasn’t funny.
I wasn’t saving myself, but it never felt right.”
Im glad he did.
That was apparently the one thing I couldnt tolerate."
40, Arizona
14.
“I was very young, and he was quite a bit older than me.
My cousin, slightly younger than me, wanted to go on a date with her boyfriend.
He was FURIOUS: ‘So you just hung out with another man, huh?'”
Definitely dodged many, many bullets by noping out of that one."
That was the final straw, I told them both to get out that night."
29, Michigan
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