When people cheat, we tend to only hear one side of the story.
How did it end?"
over seven thousand women provided their stories.
Here’s what some of them had to say below:
1.
“To clarify, I am not trying to justify what I did and fully acknowledge it was wrong.
Im just trying to explain what factors led to the situation.
Mentally, I was in a really dark place.
I had a string of dates that didnt go anywhere where I felt rejected and used.
I gained 40lbs, and my self-esteem plummeted.
He also admitted to feeling the same way towards me.”
“I didn’t know [I was the side chick] for two years.
We broke up, and he moved in with her a few months later.
He asked me to move to Florida with him.
u/darklinghate
3.
“I was 19, he was 39 and my manager.
I believe they got married in the end.
Sorry, there’s not much to say.
I just need it to take it out of my chest.”
“He told me he left her.
So I chose to out him to her every chance I got.
u/Immediate-Ad-6364
5.“Honestly?
It felt like a drug I couldn’t get enough of.
It was a drug.
And I think that’s the best metaphor because drugs are dangerous.
And they ruin people’s lives.”
“I chose to be a side chick when I was in the closet.
I felt like no one else would love me, so this would have to be good enough.
I didn’t understand that I deserved more.
It took me longer than it should to exit the relationship for good, but I finally did.
I would never do it again.
Being in a secret relationship puts you in a perfect position to be abused.
No one to witness it.
No one to share your concerns.”
u/gaygrammie
7.
“I thought I was being a safe haven for someone who really had a bad situation.
I offered an alternative instead.
I didn’t give him advice or anything; I just stuck by his side.
It was such a dumb outlook.”
I was going through the motions, I guess.
I was not really thinking at all about the girlfriend I hadn’t met.
u/Zenki_s14
9.
I truly did not even think about his girlfriend.
My thought process was, ‘If he does not care about her, why should I?'”
“I’ve done it with two different guys.
I had horribly low self-esteem and somehow thought I was ‘better’ than my girlfriends.
I was trying to be the ‘cool girl’ so much.
The sex wasn’t even that good!
Years later, I went to therapy and wouldn’t dream of doing it now if I was single.
I’ve been in a relationship for 2.5 years.”
u/Betty_Bottle
11.
“He wasnt technically married but engaged.
I worked with both him and his fiance.
I was single and had a very selfish mindset.
He figured hed even score and sleep with someone else.
I was his go-to person.
“I always thought we were just work friends.
However, I guess hormones took over, and we started getting physical.”
“I remember feeling extremely guilty after every kiss but also excited, like I am finally alive.
I ended it after I went to his apartment and saw pictures of his wife.
I would have never imagined the pain to be so strong.
It still haunts me that if she found out, she would be crushed just like I was crushed.
I still have nightmares of what I have done.
I probably will regret that all my life.”
u/Typical-Ball-1402
13.
“I chose it because I wanted him.
His marriage was already dead in the water.
He split up from his wife, moved out, and asked me on a date two weeks later.
Weve been married for ten years and have two children.”
“I did it twice with a married man.
The first time I was in college, and he was in my Shakespeare class.
He was always around, and we had to do a play together.
We ended up becoming great friends, and he confided in me about how lonely his marriage was.
Then he started complimenting me.
Then we kissed, and then we fucked in my ranger.
I got sick and tired of him telling me how much he liked me but not leaving his wife.
The guilt ate me up.
Our semester ended, and I made a concerted effort to put space between us.”
“The second time, I was married, and he was married.
We had a relationship for almost a year, on and off.
I really wanted to leave my marriage, and he said he did, too.
He would call me, and I would ask him what he thought he was doing.
He was always trying to step over boundaries at work (we worked together).
In the end, I broke down and told him not to talk to me anymore.
He would still call every few months.
When you say never again this time, girl, double-check its never again.
I love it.”
