“It felt like parenting and like I was always hanging out with a kid.
I was doing all the work, all the driving, and all the planning.
It was like I was managing a child.”
Women promptly replied to the question detailing their own breakup situations.
Here’s what they shared:
1.
“He prioritized his friends over me.
I think prioritizing friends and family is important, but it got to a point where I was miserable.
We never had quality time together.
I didn’t even get a text or call for 24 hours.
When I got upset, he said, ‘Seeing Dave is more important.
He’s my friend.’
I broke up with him the next day.
My aunt died a few hours later.”
u/MeatCat88
2.
“He and his mother were too dependent on each other, which annoyed me.”
u/LonelyLilLibra
“My current S.O.
calls his mom multiple times a day, and vice-versa.
Sometimes, even just briefly, for a few minutes.
It is sweet, but it’s a lot.
I feel like he talks to her more than he does me about stuff.
At first, I found it endearing, but now I find it annoying and problematic.”
u/jadedbeats
3.
Society has brainwashed people into thinking this is normal behavior."
u/1989sbiggestfan13
4.
“Video games are far more important than spending time with their partner.
I’m a very simple person.
I don’t care about gifts or having money spent on myself.
Let’s walk in the park; just spend some time with me.
My ex-husband would find any excuse not to spend time with me.
The most common was, ‘Gas costs money.
I’d rather hang out at home.’
“God forbid I laughed at all.
He’d get so mad at me for it.
When I hit 30, I had enough.
I left and haven’t seen him since.
I’m in a much better place now.
I have a husband and a baby.
He loves spending time with us as a family.
You don’t have to stay in a relationship you’re unhappy with.
Any reason is a valid reason to leave.”
u/NatAttack89
5.
“Peter Pan syndrome.
So, I walked away.”
u/Slosee
6.
“Poor boundaries with the other women in his life.
Partners should have each others' backs.”
u/Remarkable-Attitude
7.
I appreciate honesty as much as one can, but in my opinion, this is just depressing.
Beauty comes in so many different shapes and forms.
How can someone not find it in a person they claim to love?
It basically means your S.O.
is settling for you and will forever compare you to some kind of ideal you don’t match.”
No offense, but I wish you’d look like that.'
u/Neckdragon
8.
“I think bad mental health can be a big reason for splitting from someone.
Nobody tells you how lonely it can get to be with someone who has mental health issues.
This is due to severe unawareness of mental health issues, I feel.”
u/Grand_Gate_8836
9.
“I once broke up with a guy because I found a skidmark in his undies.
Hygiene is incredibly important to me.
u/gonzothegreatz
10.
“Anything hygiene-related, like not flushing the toilet properly/not using bleach and a toilet brush.
You’d be surprised how many have this bad habit.
They don’t wipe the shower/bath down.
If you’re going to be filthy, you oughta have your own bathroom.
u/Sunshinefake
11.
“I broke up because I was planning and initiating all dates and affection.
I needed more effort from his side, and I wouldn’t beg for it.”
u/Cookie-M0nsterr
12.
I like the outdoors.
I do not like devoting every weekend to hiking.”
u/Justwannaread3
13.
“Sometimes you’re just not feeling it anymore.
Maybe they did nothing wrong, but your feelings gradually fade.
u/yuhkih
14.
“You wouldn’t marry them.
If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a hell no.
u/pinkisalovingcolor
15.
It’s not just about whether you both like the same movies or enjoy the same hobbies.
It’s about where you see yourselves going in life and what you believe in.
u/good1mufferaw
“This is precisely why I ended my last relationship.
u/jwtgsomc_
16.
“They’re just not making you happy.
You should want to be happy and should want them to be happy, too!
You know when you’re not happy.
We are taught to not listen to ourselves.”
u/The_Philosophied
17.
“Honestly, the maturity levels.
He had no self-initiative and was happy to sit in discomfort until someone came and fixed it for him.
He was happy to profit from that and not support me in the ways I requested.”
u/aliencatboss
18.
“Incompatible cleaning habits.
u/angstyaspen
19.
“Weaponized incompetence.”
u/Alternative-Poem-337
20.
“Constant arguing, especially if youve been dating less than two years.
I think some people think fighting is normal in a relationship.
And of course, some disagreements are normal.
u/googlyeyes4830
21.
“It felt like parenting and like I was always hanging out with a kid.
I was doing all the work, all the driving, and all the planning.
It was like I was managing a child.
This ain’t my job.”
u/K19081985
22.
“Not agreeing on where you want to live.
u/Princess_SophiaBlack
23.
“Lack of communication skills, even if accidentally.
It can still cause a lot of friction if communication is non-existent.
Learn how to talk your problems out instead of exhibiting passive aggression.”
Not having a life outside of you.
It’s very smothering and exhausting for me to always guide us and make all the plans.”
u/Can-Chas3r43
Note: Submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.
