“There’s no such thing as ‘helping’ a woman with housework.
That presumes it’s primarily her responsibility and dominion.
Nothing that is your equitable share is ‘helping.'”
Reddit userveinyasiancockrecently posed thequestion: “Women of Reddit, what do men just not get?”
Women promptly replied with their biggest frustrations and grievances, and it was both educational and cathartic.
Here’s what was shared:
1.
“A lot of us don’t view you as protectors.
And bad men don’t walk around with a sign saying, ‘I’m a bad man!’
so our caution has to be applied as a blanket policy.
It’s not personal.”
u/Aethereuz
2. u/rainbowmadnesss
3.
Chances are, there’s a reason the desire is dwindling that isn’t just related to sex."
u/Maximum-Vegetable
4.
“We have no control over our periods.
Not when they come, not when they go, nothing.
This is something you must understand.”
He said, ‘So what?
Just stop it.’
I was like, ‘You do realize I have no control over it, right?
The blood just continuously flows out of my vagina by itself, whether I like it or not.’
He just shrugged and said he had no idea."
u/Emotional-Impact-534
5. u/battleofflowers
6.
“The amount of toilet paper we need to use.
Why can’t they learn to live off a few squares like I do?’
Men don’t understand that women have a lot more to clean up.
Men use it only after going #2 or to clean up a little drip.
Women can’t just shake it and be done.
On top of that, we have periods to deal with.
We need more toilet paper than you do!
Get off our backs!”
u/RovenshereExpress
7.
“Ignoring when their mom is being passive-aggressive to their girlfriend/wife reinforces that behavior and harms their relationship.
It’s not keeping the peace.”
There is no ‘middle ground.'"
u/ReadingAfraid5539
8.
“If we have sex with you, we may get pregnant, even with contraception.
u/Mushrooming247
9.
“The vagina is a naturally moist place.
When we say we’re dry, don’t imagine skin dry.
Normally, it’s a wet place, right?
But when we say we’re wet, it’s noticeable.
It’s like you smell something delicious and start salivating so much you have to swallow.
Not normal-mouth-feel wet.”
u/Blueberryaddict007
10.
“How much our menstrual cycle affects us not just the bleeding.
Hormones are a hell of a drug.
Not to mention hormonal birth control, which means we have to handle added hormones and side effects.”
u/Rubyhamster
11.
“My hobbies and interests associated with femininity aren’t automatically ‘boring’ or any less gratifying.”
When I first met my husband-to-be, he asked me about my hobbies.
He answered, ‘Oh, cool!
Why did you hesitate?’
then said, ‘How is that any different than me playing Warhammer and DnD?’
It instantly made me fall for him.
It still gives me butterflies.”
u/vampirejo
12.
“Marriage isn’t the ultimate goal for every woman.”
u/thomasedwards0504k
13.
It’s not always about solving problems; sometimes it’s just about being heard."
u/bellaerayy
14.
“How we are constantly ‘on guard’ for our safety.
u/bossamemucho
15. u/PhysicalFact2414
16.
“Truly sharing household and domestic tasks means doing them unprompted.
My brain needs a break, too, and taking initiative means a lot.”
u/brainsteam
“There’s no such thing as ‘helping’ a woman with housework.
That presumes it’s primarily her responsibility and dominion.
Nothing that is your equitable share is ‘helping.’
That is not equitable.
One good way to determine whether a workload is split equitably is to look at downtime.
In most cases, someone staying home works 12-16 hours (especially if there are kids).
u/robotatomica
17.
“When we say we want communication, it doesn’t necessarily mean talking 24/7.
Also, bringing up an issue doesn’t necessarily mean I’m mad and want to fight.
I want to communicate it before it becomes a bigger issue.”
u/purplepeopleeater31
18.
I’m learning just like you.
I’ve never done this before, and every decision I make is just a guess.
Stop acting like I should magically know this stuff because I’m a woman.”
u/Lurkerque
19.And: “Women aren’t a monolith.
Just because your ex liked X doesn’t mean your new girlfriend will.
Just because your mom likes X doesn’t mean your aunt will.
Just because your sister had light periods doesn’t mean your friend is faking her pain.
And on and on.
Women are people, and while they share common experiences, they also have their own preferences.”
u/Alcohol_Intolerant
Note: Submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity
