Women got super candid and admitted deeply eye-opening truths about their sex lives.
Theirstorieswere so relatable that they inspired theBuzzFeed Communityto share some of their own.
Everyone’s story is different.
This was symptomatic of the whole relationship his way was ‘the only way.’
I always had to fake it I never had a real one.
ceeweeweewee
2. darthjarjar
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My husband gets it and is very understanding.
applesauceandchops
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In the nine months we were together, I could count on one hand the times we were intimate.
It ended up getting to the point where I felt she wasn’t finding me attractive.
hobbitgirl96
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“I married him thinking the sex was…fine, I guess.
Nothing special, nothing terrible.
I had a lower libido than him, and I thought Id just indulge him and get through it.
Since then Ive grown to hate it I feel stuck.
My lack of desire for it coupled with shitty communication led him to having an affair.
I know intellectually his affair was not totally my fault, but sometimes I do blame myself.
I also think he has a sex addiction.
He wants to fix things with me.
I think I want to get out, but Im a giant ‘coward.’
Im in my mid-thirties and feel scared about starting over, so I just feel…frozen.”
u/bees_21
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He would rather pleasure himself and think about and look at other people than be with me.
But I guess my feelings ‘don’t matter.'"
myvoice48
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“This makes me feel better, conflicted, and seen?
I want to spend my life with him but we have never done it.
Im okay with it minus the fact that I want to feel like Im attractive.
I want that validation from my partner, and its not happening.
archimedial
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The sexual chemistry was through the roof.
However, we were so immature and constantly fighting that we would always make up and break up.
Years later we reconnected and got married.
Now as adults, the sex is nowhere near as hot and heavy.
I think it helps us to know that we did once have that huge sexual chemistry.
cute-as-ducks419
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I didn’t know it was there I caught it at my first mammogram in May 2018.
My husband and I went eight months without sex I want to feel ‘normal’ again.
It’s been over five years and I miss the urge, want, and desire to have sex.
It is the one thing I hate that cancer took away from me.”
s43e88cd45
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I want out a lot, but I just dont think Ill leave at this point.
They would never understand and would hate me for wrecking what looks like a perfect family."
u/mthr2humans
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“We had no chemistry, but he was my best friend.
We broke up because he wanted children and I didnt, and honestly, I really miss his friendship.
katerumtruffle
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I borrowed money for a retainer-fee from several different people and places and filed.
[After the divorce] I had a lot of sex and learned so much about myself sexually.
He and I had great sex when we met and got married.
prettyfalldown
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“Overall it’s going great.
u/Viggos_Broken_Toe
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“We’ve been married for nine years and together for 17. mamadeef
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“Wait until yall hit menopause.
Postpartum, cramps, depression….none of it compares to the wild swing of ‘THE CHANGE.’
Hes a great partner, but man this stage of life is something else.”
We were the best of friends (and by the best, I mean THE BEST).
The rapport was unreal, we were pretty much having a telepathic connection.
Like, it was NOT supposed to happen.
It’s hard for me to describe it.”
But, it was all ending with me crying in secret.
It ultimately destroyed us.
I met someone new and fell madly in love.
I knew we were done the moment I felt it.”
u/RandomCentipede387
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