“There’s nothing like having two men passionately desiring and worshipping you.”
Reddit useru/overthinkerinmyfeelsaskedther/AskWomencommunity: “Women who have had threesomes, what was your experience like?”
The thread promptly filled with women eager to share their range of experiences and advice.
Here’s what they revealed:
1.
“I’ve had my fair share of male-female-female threesomes.
The ones that involved exploring with friends were awkward and created baggage afterward.
I wouldn’t do that again.
The more spur-of-the-moment one-night things were hella fun.
u/Nelsie020
2.
“I’ve had several.
The experience turns out the best if everyone communicates about their desires beforehand.
She asked me if she and I could plan a worshipping evening for him.
She was aware of my open sexuality.
She and I cooked dinner, wore robes, I played piano, and she danced.
Then, as the evening got later and we all had more wine, we moved to the bedroom.
I enjoyed sharing my boyfriend with her and watching her express her love and gratitude.”
u/cupokelly
3.
“I did some before marriage and a few more during marriage.
The ones during marriage have literally ruined my marriage.
It’s the worst decision I’ve ever made (almost).
I can’t unsee or unhear.
It made me sick for years.”
u/Tricky-Contest9985
4.
“I had my first threesome at age 19 with two amazing guys in their 30s.
We vacationed together for a few years, and I learned so much from these two wonderful humans.
After getting married to my husband, we entered the swinging lifestyle.
We have been married for 33 years.
Our communication is constant.
We truly believe that swinging has made our marriage stronger.”
“We swing with other couples, single males or single females.
We have rules we have formed over the years and stick to them no matter what happens.
We never form any kind of emotional connection to anyone other than friends with benefits.
It’s not for everyone!
It’s not something you should try unless your partnership is very, very solid.
But, I will say, the communication gets to be top-notch.
We, of course, do not tell them about the swinging.”
u/lexibrat
5.
Anyway, I lost interest while doing it and checked out halfway through.
I told them they could have sex with each other because I was not into it at all!
As a bi girl, I thought I would enjoy it much more.
Then, I hung out with them, ate, and went home.
I stopped dating him and never had another threesome after that.
But that experience made me realize that I am extremely monogamous!”
u/practical-junkie
6.
“It was enjoyable at first, but my friends-with-benefits got their feelings hurt pretty quickly.
I dont do sharing and Ive seen it mess up more relationships than improve them.”
u/AreolianMode
7.
“It was nice.
Sleeping with a woman made me realize I’m bi, too!
The male friend also had a spectacular time.”
u/V_is4vulva
8.
“I’ve had a couple of male-female-male threesomes and absolutely loved them.
They can be very intense and full of so much desire and pleasure.
There’s nothing like having two men passionately desiring and worshipping you.”
u/Letters_into_stories
9.
“I loved male-male-female all that attention for me!
I’m straight, so it makes sense.”
u/muffinmamners
10.
“It was a great experience!
It was during my best friends wedding, which was over the course of a long weekend in Austin.
She got really excited and talked to him about it pretty much immediately.
We all went to grab a bite together after swimming and were all super flirty.
It was so much fun!
When the evening rolled around at the wedding dinner, she whispered they wanted to explore me.
On the way back to the hotel, we shared an Uber and were secretly handsy.”
“Once we got to the hotel, we grabbed a drink and went to my room.
It was so much fun and so hot.
We all came a lot and each took turns with each other.
u/meaghat
11.
“I had a few male-male-female threesomes with two guys I was dating simultaneously.
Both were bisexual and open to poly relationships.
We honestly had so much fun.
Then, we would get up and make breakfast.
It was honestly all-around great.
As for the sex, it’s still some of the best I’ve ever had!
Being completely doted and dominated by two great people was awesome.
When they let me switch, well, that was fun too.”
u/beautifuldisasterxx
12.
“I had a threesome with a male-female couple, both bi.
They made a lot of effort to make me feel comfortable and desired.
They were both super hot, and I had a great time.
They ended up closing their relationship before we could meet again, but I miss them.”
u/998757748
13.
It was between me, someone I was starting to date, and one of her friends.
They were both very open-minded and easygoing, which lowered expectations for everyone.
u/Kestrel-Transmission
14.
“I had one with my boyfriend and a friend of ours.
We were hanging out, making jokes about it, and then it happened.
Things got really weird after that point between us all.
I would do it again with a different emotional setup.
The sex was great, though.”
u/Various-Campaign-346
15.
Honestly, it’s quite overrated, and I much prefer the intimacy of a single partner.
Chances are one of you will come out of it with trust issues and feeling violated and regretful.
Don’t cave into your partner’s pressure to consent; that’s abuse.”
u/Byleth_
16.
“I did it once with my roommate and her boyfriend.
He made the first move when she wasn’t there in the room.
It was the best threesome so far.
It was full of love and passion.
I did it again with the same dude and my current boyfriend.
u/ThinkStep8784
17.
In that case, be the ‘support’ if you want.
Or, kick back and watch, if thats your thing.”
u/DerelictMyOwnBalls
18.
“I’ve had a couple of male-female-female threesomes and one or two female-female-female ones.
Meh, all the way around.
I don’t remember ever orgasming.
It’s one of those situations where less is more for me.”
u/Illustrious_Repair
19.
“Two friends and I (all women) had one in college.
It wasn’t a great experience because we hadn’t discussed it beforehand.
None of us knew what we were doing.
We all got brunch and agreed that we wouldn’t make a big deal out of it.
I don’t think I’d do it again.”
Never say never, but it’s pretty unlikely with where I am now."
u/AliceInWeirdoland
20.
“I’ve done it with two different couples.
One was really bad, but I became a FWB thing with the other.
The one was bad because there was NO COMMUNICATION AND NO BOUNDARIES.
The dude was crossing many lines and I left with them fighting.
The other, we met first and communicated every boundary.
Another person and I cut my last threesome short.
It was with friends.
One was doing it to get with me.
u/Grace2098
21.
I was the third for a couple, and it genuinely felt very emotionally wrecking.
I tried it several times, but I always felt lonely and sad at the end.
It wasn’t anything they were doing.
I guess I didn’t realize I needed more emotional intimacy before the physical.
I wouldn’t do it again.
It took a bit of a toll on my mental health.”
u/mackeeltosh
22.
“I’ve had at least three dozen.
I also had an FMF in February with my FWB and a lady I met on FET.
I enjoyed that one a lot!
The three of us took our time and were all very much into one another.”
u/Dense_Researcher1372
23.
“Honestly, it was kind of awkward.
Definitely a one-time thing for me.”
u/pamplemouss
24.
“I’ve had many, ranging from good to spectacular.
I’m a big fan of group stuff.
But I pick my partners well and am also very good at managing group stuff.
I’ve done pretty much every version that involves people you know.
I’ve been in a relationship, and we brought in a third.
I’ve been in a throuple.
I’ve been the third for other couples.
I’ve just had casual sex with a couple of people I knew who also wanted to.
And I’ve watched while a couple had sex.
It’s all great.
I’ve also had foursomes and moresomes.”
u/InfinitelyThirsting
25. u/amav28_
26.
“I’ve had four: two male-male-female and two female-female-male.
The relationship factors honestly weren’t an indicator of how good or bad they were.
As far as I’m aware, nobody got their feelings hurt.
The ones where we were all single weren’t necessarily better than when two were in a relationship.
However, what made it bad was that not everyone had the same expectations and wishes.
u/nonsignifiernon
27.
“It’s a mixed bag.
I would have to sit with myself for a long time before considering it again.”
u/HeyMrBusiness
28.And: “My long-term boyfriend and I have had a few with men and women.
It’s always been a great experience.
Now, I’ve had several over five years and have loved every experience!
The key was communication, check-ins, and choosing a nice person who understands boundaries and feels welcome!
It’s not for everyone, but I’ve never had a bad experience.”
u/Ok-Procedure7568
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